Momwe mungapangire chivomerezo chabwino? Chilengezo cha chikondi chingakhale chokhutiritsa ndi chosangalatsa kwambiri. Muyenera kukonzekera chirichonse ndipo, panthawi imodzimodziyo, muzichita mwachibadwa momwe mungathere. Mphindi yolengeza chikondi chanu ikhoza kukhala imodzi mwazokhudza kwambiri ubale wanu. Pambuyo pake, mutha kuyika tsiku ili chaka ndi chaka ngati chiyambi cha nkhani yanu yachikondi.
Kodi muyenera kukumbukira chiyani mukamusonyeza mmene mukumvera kwa nthawi yoyamba? Kodi mumalengeza bwanji chikondi kuti pasakhale zolakwa ndipo zonse zimachitika mwangwiro? M'nkhaniyi, tasonkhanitsa mawu abwino kwambiri achikondi, ndakatulo ndi malangizo pa nkhani yolengeza za chikondi.
Kodi chivomerezo cha chikondi ndi chiyani?
Kulengeza kwa chikondi ndi mphindi yaumwini m'moyo wanu. Kuulula chikondi chanu kumatanthauza kuuza wokondedwa wanu kwa nthawi yoyamba momwe mumamvera za iye. Ngakhale ndizovuta kunena kuti "ndimakukondani" kwa nthawi yoyamba, muyenera kutero ngati malingaliro anu ali amphamvu kwambiri kuti muwatchule chikondi. Ndiye mungalembe bwanji mawuwo kuti akhale chilengezo chachikondi? Nawa malangizo amomwe mungachitire:
"Ndimakukondani" kwa nthawi yoyamba: malangizo kupanga chilengezo cha chikondi ntchito
Yesetsani kutanthauzira molondola zakukhosi kwanu musanamuwonetse. Mukutsimikiza chikondi chachikondi ndi chiyani? Kapena ndi chifundo chanthawi yochepa? Choyamba, muyenera kuyankha mafunso amenewa moona mtima.
Dziwani zomwe akuganiza za inu komanso ngati chikondi chanu ndi chapakati. Gawo ili ndilofunika kupewa zodabwitsa zosasangalatsa. Ngati akusonyezani chidwi, mulimbikitseni. Mwachitsanzo, mukhoza kumuyamikira, kumutengera ku chakudya chamadzulo, kapena kumutumizira maluwa omwe amakonda kwambiri.
Nthawi yoyenera kuulula
Pezani malo oyenera kuti mulengeze chikondi chanu. Khalani okondana. Malo abwino kwambiri a mphindi yotereyi ndi malo odyera omwe ali ndi maonekedwe okongola, paki ya autumn kapena gombe la usiku. Muyenera kumva chikondi pamene awiri a inu mulipo. Akazi ngati choncho.
Sankhani nthawi yoyenera ndikuipanga kukhala yapadera. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri ndi chakuti mutha kukhala nokha komanso mwamtendere kuti palibe kapena wina akuvutitseni. Yang'anani m'maso mwake, gwira dzanja lake ndikuchita, muwuze iye kuti umamukonda iye.
Zitsanzo za mawu achidule a chikondi
mungathe basi konzani kulengeza kwanu kwa chikondi ndi miyambi iyi:
- Ndikafa nthawi yomweyo ndikungotsala ndi mpweya uwiri, ndikanakusungirani. Ndikatenga mmodzi kuti akupsopsoneni. Mpweya wina ukanakhala "ndimakukonda".
Palibe chophweka ndipo sichidzakhala. Moyo wathu udzakhala wovuta, padzakhala masiku abwino ndi oipa. Koma tiyesetsa kutero chifukwa tikufuna kukhala limodzi. Chifukwa timafunikirana ndipo sitingakhalenso ndi moyo ndikupuma popanda wina ndi mnzake.
- Kunyumba ndi komwe muli nthawi zonse. Maloto abwino nthawi zonse ndi maloto omwe amatha ndi inu. Ubwino nthawi zonse ndikumverera komwe kumakhazikika mwa inu. Joy ndikumverera komwe kumangobwera ndikakuwona mukuseka. Dzina langa ndi limene limabwera patsogolo pa dzina lanu lomaliza. Sindingathe kufotokoza bwino chikondi changa. Ndimakukondani!
Inde, papita nthawi yaitali kuchokera pamene tinakondwerera ukwati wathu. Ndipo ndingakuuzeni chiyani? Ndine mwayi bwanji kukhala nanu! Mwanjira ina, kucheza nanu kumakhalabe ngati chikondwerero chamuyaya chaukwati. Pambali yanu, ndikumva wokondwa, wokhutira komanso wotetezedwa. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, ndine yemwe ndikufuna kukhala. Zikomo chifukwa ndimakukondani!
Munapambana mtima wanga pakuthawa Ndipo sindinawonenso chiphaso chanu choyendetsa ndege. Ndinangokwera nanu mu katundu wamanja, ndipo kuyambira pamenepo takhala tikuyenda limodzi kudutsa mlengalenga, nthawi ndi dziko lapansi. Mfundo yakuti zonse zimagwira ntchito bwino kwambiri zimatsutsana ndi malamulo onse a chilengedwe. Koma sizili choncho. Chifukwa lamulo la chibadwa chathu limatchedwa chikondi. Ubwino wake ndikuti ukuwoneka kuti upambana chilichonse!
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